En même temps (comme dirait Macron😀) on ne lutte pas contre une réalité sociale en refusant de la voir, et se regrouper est parfois, à court terme au moins, la meilleure manière de se défendre.Using other people’s research or ideas without giving them due credit is plagiarism.I wanted to tell her on the first date, but I knew that would probably be weird. She kind of gave me this half-shy, half-amused smile. Like most Hasidic Jews (we both became religious later in life), our dating period lasted a very short time. I mean, how you can feel that burning love when you’re sitting at the table discussing how to use the last twenty dollars in your bank account? How can you feel it when you think it makes perfect sense to put your socks on the floor after you’re done with them, and she has this crazy idea that they need to go in the laundry basket? And now, as I’m a bit older and a bit more experienced with this relationship, I’ve finally come to realize something. There was no way I could keep that dating fire burning as practicality invaded our lives. Something I haven’t wanted to admit for a long time, but is undeniable. Comme assez souvent, je me suis retrouvé devoir essayer d’expliquer les grilles de lecture européennes aux américains, et inversement.En effet, si le racisme aux États-Unis est un peu différent de ce qu’il est en Europe, l’antiracisme est lui complètement différent.Kelly is married, has three children, and enjoys learning from them how to be a kid again.
I had tried really hard up to that point to hold it back, honestly. I tried so hard to keep that fire going, to keep that emotion alight, but it got harder and harder. And what was even more interesting was that once I realized this on a conscious level, and started trying to find more opportunities to give, the more we both, almost intuitively, became lovey-dovey. From the excitement of dating a woman I felt like I could marry. Imagine a whole nation of people constantly chasing the emotions they had when they were dating. That’s a recipe for disastrous marriages; for a country with a 50% divorce rate; for adultery (the classic attempt to turn the fire back on); for people who do stay together to simply live functional, loveless marriages. How many people are in pain simply because they’ve been lied to.
Coimme d’habitude, le texte anglais est plus bas, mais c’est ici beaucoup plus bas.
Une traduction chinoise par Liu A-Yue peut aussi être lue ici.
Kelly is a licensed clinical psychologist and co-founder of Artisan Clinical Associates in Naperville, IL.
He is also a writer and blogs regularly about the redemption of our personal, relational, and communal lives.
Pour un américain, être antiraciste c’est vouloir l’égalité des races, considérées comme des réalités incontournables, voire comme des identités à défendre.