While the people interviewed for this story represent a range of social and political affiliations, and the events they attend are various — from late nights at San Francisco dance clubs to bonfire Havdalahs on the farm in Berkeley, queer Shabbat services in living rooms and Hanukkah parties in backyards — a few things become clear: Despite the differences across social, religious and political spectrums, young Jews are showing up at Jewish events hungry for connection and community. In the Bay Area, home of the startup, the proactive do-it-yourself energy is front and center in the Jewish dating world.
While most say they are seeking a romantic partner (or two), they no longer look to Jewish online dating apps or longstanding Jewish institutions to create the social scenarios. Enter Jewbilee, a grassroots social event started six months ago by two entrepreneurial brothers that meets at different alcohol-friendly locations in San Francisco.
And about how I had all of this cool data that showed that there were actually more single men in New York, and they were probably just hiding indoors playing video games?
However, I come with questions: What is everyone doing here?
Is this how young people in the Bay Area are meeting each other? And what about “marrying Jewish” — does that still feel relevant? In short, the answer to all that is: Yes, no and maybe.
Note: This is all fiercely heteronormative, and I’m sorry about that, but such is the data bestowed by the US Census Bureau.
If you’d like to see a hilarious side effect of this, scroll down to the last image. Very much the opposite of what we found about New York, where the core of Manhattan was primarily single women.
And I can’t remember the last time I’ve donned a neon wristband.